So after my arrival to India, things started running really fast I got a job in Bangalore (as Radhika’s father proffered a groom who works in Bangalore), the marriage talks were now converted into basic rituals. But as you know by now, things are never easy with us.The grandpa challenge was there already however after a lot of efforts finally the families agreed to go ahead and fix up a date for the marriage, the two fathers (Mine & her) along with two uncles (Mine & her) went to a few priests (pandits) to find out a suitable date for our wedding however somehow none of them agreed to a date and we ended up having 5-6 dates to choose from scattered across the year (2016-17).
So to avoid anymore delays and understanding our impatiences the families decided to do the wedding on nearest suggested date 10 July 2016. Things went great, we both were super happy counting days, hours, planning things as we want during the wedding.
Radhika’s sister got married in 2010 to Mr. Lakshya. Lakshya was super calm and more of reserved kind. The couple had some government competition exams on 10 July itself hence they requested for change in the date, however when Radhika’s father denied this Mr. Lakshya got adamant and stated that if not changed the couple (Mr. & Mrs. Lakshya) will never come to his (Radhika’s dad) house for any future event.
Being a typical Indian father, and frightened of consequences he requested us and everyone else for the change. This came to me as a surprise because as per me Lakshya could have very comfortably manage his exams, he was not required for any ritual, he need not to take any responsibility. I gave up after constant requests and agreed for the next date. Since the rituals have already started he left a coconut with a rupee to my house confirming that this wedding was a fix (Regardless of date). We both were kinda sad to know that we have to wait more for the marriage.
My brother who was working for a Hotel in Qatar was also quite shocked to this news as well since he was thinking to addend the marriage between the job switch. The next date was __ November’16, and I was kind of happy also as the wedding will take place in winters allowing everyone to enjoy but we were concerned as well since I was about to become Uncle by Jan’17 and it is not okay to fly full months. This started to move slowly, delivery of my niece was a bit of tension but we all were hoping for the best. Finally my brother got another job, the one he liked but that caused problem as well, since it was a new job he was not allowed to take any leaves before six months, meaning that the baby must be delivered in Qatar as well as they both cant attend my wedding.
We started to look for next date….
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